Wednesday, February 25, 2009

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Hello, I'm glad you have discovered Motivational Mentoring 101. If you have purchased the book, this is the place discuss your progress or ask questions.

44 comments:

  1. Question: is the discussion in regards to being a teen that mentors or mentoring a teen?

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  2. What does it take to mentor teens?
    Listening skills, transperancy, cooperation with God, integrity, unconditional love.
    Can you tell I'm passionate about mentoring?

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  3. The answer for Bebra Panozzo is mentoring a teen. This blog is created for any adult who wants to develop or improve mentoring skills for at-risk, troubled teens or even teens with disabilities. An online forum for community support and interaction.

    Thanks pamross. Your comments have been noted. Here's what others have to say from Twitter.

    jancdavis @therlong listening, empathy and a willingness to change or rethink your own point of view of generational differences

    NugtsGemsPearls @therlong part of being a good teen mentor - meeting them where they are w/out judgement. They'll pull their pants up soon enough.

    timwicks @therlong A good teen mentor? The ability to chill out and empathise

    kievia @therlong Someone who listens and doesn't talk down to the teen

    philthethrill @therlong - You have to be genuine. Teens have a pretty good BS detector, they know when you're not being real with them.

    robinmckee Time!

    Let's keep the ideas rolling in.

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  4. Stephenrek @therlong to be good at mentoring means to me that you have a connection with teens while still remaining an example that they want to be.

    pamross @therlong listening skills, transparancy, cooperation wf God, integrity, unconditional love. Can u tell I'm passionate about mentoring?

    pamross your passion comes through loud and lear. "The love we give away is the only love we keep." You've given alot. Thanks!

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  5. terez07 @therlong I think INTEGRITY is an important quality in a good teen mentor.

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  6. terez07 @therlong I think INTEGRITY is an important quality in a good teen mentor.

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  9. kayjay15@therlong One trait I'm working on with my son is integrity when no one is watching.

    TheUrbanMonk@therlong Integrity, Patience, A good listener, Honesty, Consistency, Unconditional love.

    ProActiveDads@therlong I'd like to think we qualify. ;) @ProActiveDads @NathanGreenberg

    BertrandGervais@therlong Believability. If you don't relate to an aspect of his life be honest. Focus on your common ground.

    TimeT0shine@therlong A good teen mentor? The ability to chill out and empathise

    BertrandGervais@therlong Believability. If you don't relate to an aspect of his life be honest. Focus on your common ground.

    ProActiveDads@therlong I'd like to think we qualify. ;) @ProActiveDads @NathanGreenberg

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  10. LaterOn1969@therlong Values are amounts of something considered to be equivalent for something else. Do we trust other ppl's perception of fair worth?

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  11. Here's a little something I used in a family values workshop. Taken from Steven Covey:

    4 Action Tips for Highly Effective Families

    1. Develop a Family Mission Statement - This will be a combined, unified expression from all family members to define what your family is all about and the principles you choose to govern your family life. Strive to connect family activities and traditions with the Mission Statement.
    2. Plan regular family times - Plan a weekly time when the whole family is expected to be together. This time can be for teaching or sharing important life concepts; listening to family members and solving problems; attending entertaining or cultural events together. It will be an expectation that everyone will be present.
    3. Schedule regular one-on-one bonding times with each family member - “What is important to your child must be important to you!” Have weekly dates with your spouse and individual times with each child, where they decide the activity. It might also include volunteering at your child’s school or showing up for a visit during the lunch break. Develop meaningful bed-time rituals (talking, sharing, reading, singing, praying).
    4. Build Family Traditions - Children love traditions such as special meals, celebrating birthdays or holidays, family vacations, or working on family histories or newsletters.

    My workshop focused mainly on writing a family mission statement based on a set of mutal values. I had a wonderful time empowering parents to be the primary influnencers in the lives of their children.

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  12. Hello: My name is Rita, I would like to be a Motivational Mentor, I also do Motivational Speaking.

    I can be reached at cassieoa@hotmail.com

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  13. Strategies for Success


    “You must have a plan for everything and be able to put your plan into action!”

    Create and encourage opportunities for positive self-expression in your mentee through art, music, dance, etc. Make them feel good about themselves. Focus on the good. If you feel good about yourself you will more than likely feel good about others.

    Encourage your mentees to help themselves. Limit the amount of help that you provide. “I’ll help you so much, but then you have to help yourself.”

    Be accepting of what the mentee gives, but always guide them into giving more. Challenge your mentee to learn and instill higher expectations (stretching). Develop strategies for tapping more of their potential through self-esteem building. Sell them on their individual talents and potentials.

    Enter the mentees’ world and create projects that relate to them. If your mentee is into rapping for instance, have him or her create raps with positive messages or the teaching of some subject. “A good rapper can rap on anything!” For example, have them create a rap on some event in history or any academic subject or poetry. I have allowed my mentees to hold and perform “Rap Contests” in front of school audiences to teach CPR with great success. Find ways to turn every “happening” (trend) into positive learning experiences.

    Allow and encourage mentee involvement in the decision making process. Learning is greater and more accepted when the mentees have some “say” in the process.

    Assess your skills and abilities so that you can do the things that you do best with the mentee. Your enthusiasm for a hobby or project is attracting.

    When you are with a mentee, give your full-undivided attention to the mentee. You should be looking for ways to trigger their “hot buttons” to tap into potential.

    Be ready to support positive problem solving skills. Talk through strategies with your mentees for recognizing, handling and overcoming barriers. Turn negative experiences into positive productive learning situations. Winning should be associated with their future career connections.

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  14. Dear Educator,

    We encourage you to submit a proposal and/or attend the 21st
    ANNUAL NATIONAL YOUTH-AT-RISK CONFERENCE on February 28-March 3, 2010 at the Hyatt Regency Hotel in Savannah, Georgia. Georgia Southern University hosts the conference in cooperation with other universities, school districts, and social agencies. The following credits will be awarded pending approval: PLU, CEU, POST, LPCA, PCCG, GAMFT, and NASW.
    HOMEPAGE: http://ceps.georgiasouthern.edu/conted/nationalyouthatrisk.html
    PROPOSALS: http://ceps.georgiasouthern.edu/conted/yarproposals.html
    REGISTRATION: http://ceps.georgiasouthern.edu/conted/yarregister.html

    Over 1200 PARTICIPANTS attend over 120 SESSIONS. Nationally recognized presenters share how to create safe, healthy, caring, and intellectually empowering educational environments to promote the well-being of all our young people. See FEATURED SPEAKERS: http://ceps.georgiasouthern.edu/conted/yarfeaturedspeakers.html

    Attend one of three PRE-CONFERENCE WORKSHOPS, Sunday, February 28, 2:30-5:30 pm: Reaching the Tough Kids with Relational Discipline, The Untold Story of the Adolescent Mind, and Leading through Change.

    Learn how HIGH-FLYING SCHOOLS are attaining high achievement with high-poverty and high-diversity student populations. See High-Flying Schools: http://ceps.georgiasouthern.edu/conted/yarHFschools.html

    KEYNOTE SPEAKERS INCLUDE:
    CHRISTIAN MOORE is an internationally renowned author, speaker, and youth advocate. The WhyTry Program, which he founded, reduces truancy, prevents violence, and improves academic success. This social/emotional skills program is now used in thousands of schools, correctional facilities and mental health agencies in the United States, Canada, and Australia.

    LARRY BELL is a nationally acclaimed motivational speaker, veteran teacher, and recognized author of 12 Powerful Words that Increase Test Scores and Help Close the Achievement Gap.
    He shares inspirational stories and practical strategies for raising academic expectations and closing achievement gaps.

    DR. JANE BLUESTEIN is a dynamic speaker, experienced teacher, and former crisis-intervention counselor. Her award-winning books include: Creating Emotionally Safe Schools; 21st Century Discipline; Being a Successful Teacher; and Parents, Teens, & Boundaries. She shares how to create caring and empowering relationships with children and adolescents.

    For more information call
    Marie Williams at (912) 478-2260 or email at marieawilliams@georgiasouthern.edu
    or
    Janice Reynolds at (912) 478-1755 or email at janreyn@georgiasouthern.edu

    Best regards,
    Dan Rea, Co-Chair, National Youth-At-Risk Conference
    College of Education, Georgia Southern University


    Marie Williams
    Assistant Conference Coordinator
    Continuing Education Center
    Georgia Southern University
    PO Box 8124
    Statesboro, GA 30460

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  15. How to Train Adult Learners in the Adult/Youth Mentor Relationships

    “Experience is the best teacher!” Evidence and research has shown that adults tend to have a need to integrate new ideas with what they already know and learn best from the sharing of common experiences with others. Barriers that often deter adults from mentoring or developing nurturing roles can be overcome in situations where mutual experiences, interests and knowledge are shared with colleagues, thus, a way connecting with new people.

    Through brainstorming of experiences adult mentors are able to boost their confidence levels and abilities in building self-esteem in youths along with the goal of creating and sharing mentoring relationships that are based on trust and modeling of values.

    Adults also tend to be problem centered and look to identify and develop relevant solutions to common problems.

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  19. Serious about wanting a proven way to get youth on the right track? Imagine an entire organization of adult mentors whose mentoring skills are greatly enhanced and learned from the combined experiences of others. Train mentors to recognize and maximize the strengths of troubled teens through an organization wide unifying system of communication for developing rapport, creating attainable goals and motivating at-risk or troubled youth.

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  20. Congratulations Therlon!



    Your proposal has been selected to be included in the 21st Annual National Youth-At-Risk Conference (Successful Programs for Empowering Youth: Overcoming Poverty, Violence, and Failure). We had a tremendous response to this year’s Call for Proposals! In order to accommodate the large number of quality proposals that were submitted, we are offering presenters the opportunity to feature their work in a poster session format in place of the Large Group format. These poster sessions will last one hour and fifteen minutes. Your proposal has been selected for the Poster Session format.



    We have scheduled your presentation, Motivational Mentoring 101 - Training mentors how to maximize the strengths of troubled teens, from 2:45 - 4:00 PM on Tuesday, March 2, 2010.

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  21. Mentoring Troubled Teens in 12 Simple Steps!
    By Therlon @ 8:11 AM :: 2 Views :: 0 Comments :: Conferences and Training Opportunities, Articles about tutoring and mentoring programs
    When Mentoring Troubled Teens you have to remain steadfast in your pursuit of positive reinforcement. Have you considered the amount of negativity in these teens lives? In many cases, the moment they wake until the moment they sleep these children are drowning in caustic friendships, music and television shows. Break the "normal" routine and inject positive outlooks into the troubled lives.

    Strategies for Successfully Mentoring Troubled Teens

    1) You must have a plan and put your plan into action.

    2) Create and encourage opportunities for positive self-expression in your mentee through art, music, dance, etc. Make them feel good about themselves. Focus on the good. If you feel good about yourself you will more than likely feel good about others.

    3) Encourage your mentees to help themselves. Limit the amount of help that you provide."I'll help you so much, but then you have to help yourself."

    4) Be accepting of what the mentee gives, but always guide them into giving more. Challenge your mentee to learn and instill higher expectations, constantly stretching their self confidence.

    5) Mentoring Troubled Teens Strategies for tapping into the students potential through self-esteem building. Sell them on their individual talents and potentials.

    6) Enter the mentees' world and create projects that relate to them. If your mentee is into rapping for instance, have him or her create raps that teach a new subject."A good rapper can rap about anything!" For example, have them create a rap on some event in history or any academic subject. We have created "Rap Contests" where mentees performed original raps that taught CPR with great success.

    7) Find ways to turn every "happening" (trend) into positive learning experiences.

    8) Allow and encourage mentee involvement in the decision making process. Learning is greater and more accepted when the mentees have some "say" in the process.

    9) Assess your skills and abilities so that you can do the things that you do best with the mentee. Your enthusiasm for a hobby or project is attracting.

    10) When you are with a mentee, give your full-undivided attention to the mentee. You should be looking for ways to trigger their "hot buttons" to tap into potential. Be ready to support positive problem solving skills.

    11) Talk through strategies with your mentees for recognizing, handling and overcoming barriers. Turn negative experiences into positive productive learning situations.

    12) Winning should be associated with their future career connections.

    Focus on incorporating these 12 steps into your daily routine when mentoring troubled teens. And, soon you will find yourself at the center of a new positive world for many, many former troubled teens.

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    About the Author
    Therlon Harris developed Motivational Mentoring 101, a brand new, highly specialized workbook that forces mentors into being highly effective role models when mentoring troubled teens. Therlon is a former teacher of incarcerated adolescent male offenders. His leadership and 30 years of experience has allowed him to "stay on the cutting edge" of practices in education, business and community.

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  22. Revised Edition
    "Experience is the Best Teacher when dealing with Troubled Teens."
    By: Therlon G. Harris
    Evidence and research has shown that adults tend to have a need to integrate new ideas with what they already know. Adults learn best from the sharing of common experiences with other fellow adults. Barriers that often deter adults from mentoring or developing nurturing roles can be overcome in situations where mutual experiences, interests and knowledge are shared with colleagues, thus, a way of connecting with new people. Solutions to common problems dealing with troubled youth which adult mentors face in the adult-mentee relationships can be mutually dealt with. Training derived primarily from the brainstorming of experiences will help adult mentors to boost their confidence levels and abilities in building self-esteem in troubled youths. The goal is to create sharing relationships that are based on trust and role modeling of positive values.
    Breaking down adults into small groups for interaction to elicit more sincere responses to concepts dealing with troubled youth will provide "experienced focused training" for adults from all walks of life. Practical guidelines to stimulate and provoke thought in the areas of self-esteem building, problem solving and goal setting can be discussed and evaluated. Adult mentors will be able to recognize, maximize and enhance the strengths of troubled teens through the development of proper mental attitudes and systematic procedures for dealing with troubled youth who are going through the struggles of adolescence.
    Training adult mentors to recognize and maximize the strengths of troubled teens through an organization wide unifying system of communication for developing rapport, creating attainable goals and motivating at-risk youth should be the goal of any mentoring organization.
    Mentor training should provide a proven system for generating troubled teens with self-esteem building skills, concepts, ideas, strategies and problem solving skills. While training adults to recognize and help troubled youths to overcome limitations in the adult-troubled teen mentor relationships.
    Though mentor training is comprehensive in nature, the training should not be presented as an exhaustive review of mentoring. The message is clearly stated regarding the need for the development of important relationships for these youths with adults who can help them energize their inner resources to meet the challenges of life today. Within the training suggestions, thoughts and experience to help facilitate the forging of such relationships should be created.
    Mentor training should also be an interactive process to stimulate, provoke thought and guide anyone in improving or developing mentoring skills and work well in training individuals individually or best in group workshop situations.
    How often do you hear someone asking "I wish I knew how to motivate my troubled son or daughter." Here's a proven system to develop mentoring skills for dealing with troubled youth for those who never thought they could.
    Therlon Harris developed Motivational Mentoring 101. Therlon is a former basic education teacher of incarcerated adolescent male offenders. His leadership and 30 years of experience has allowed him to stay on the cutting edge of practices in education, business and community. Experienced in job coaching and job development for ex-offenders, Therlon has mentored many youthful and adult offenders into socially accepted careers.
    Therlon holds both B.S. & M.S. Degrees from the University of Michigan. He has long-term experiences in a variety of academic disciplines and has served as consultant for non-profit service organizations serving at-risk students. He has acted as presenter of innovative human services programs to local, state and national audiences. In addition, Therlon has served as a youth mentor, family worker, drug abuse educator and role model for a variety of private agencies.
    Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Therlon_G._Harris

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  23. "Programs for troubled youth should ...." What do you think?" Survery Responses from Twitter!


    TanyaStoddard @therlong focus on relationships and resilliency.

    Replyjenscloset @therlong give each child personal attention, have them do something for others, that will give them self worth

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  24. troubledteen @therlong Programs dealing with troubled youth should be patient, non-judgmental and consistent. Non-punitive when dealing with discipline

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  25. I conducted this survey last November 2009 on Twitter... Programs for troubled youth should? What do you think? I ran this "tweet" over the course of several days on Twitter simply to sample "the Twitter verse", to see if anyone would respond or even care. The following is a compilation of responses from those Twitter responders who let me know what they thought.
    Programs for troubled youth should:
    • Give each child personal attention;
    • Teach self-worth;
    • It should focus on relationships;
    • The overall program should be resilient in its goals and purposes;
    • Patient in its approach to dealing with problems;
    • Non-judgmental;
    • Consistent;
    • Non-punitive when dealing with discipline;
    • Offer opportunities to do something for others;
    • And attract, provoke, stimulate, excite and maintain the interest of its charges.
    Adults learn most from the sharing of common experiences with other fellow adults. Experience is the Best Teacher. The sharing of experience is even better! Barriers that often deter adults from mentoring or developing nurturing roles can be overcome in situations where mutual experiences, interests and knowledge are shared with colleagues, thus, a way of connecting with new people.
    Imagine if this had been an actual workshop with these adults interacting face to face with each other. Solutions to common problems could be mutually dealt with through the brainstorming of common experiences from adults from all walks of life. This is what I call "experienced focused training".
    Mentor training or experienced focused training should provide a proven system for generating troubled teens with self-esteem building skills, concepts, ideas, strategies and problem solving skills. While training adults to recognize and help troubled youths to overcome limitations in the adult-troubled teen mentor relationships.
    Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Therlon_Harris

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  26. At 1/5/2010 6:05 AM a comment was posted to your article Mentoring Troubled Teens in 12 Simple Steps!.

    Good informative steps that parents need to consider. In my opinion, to deal with today's troubled teens, parents need to treat it is a sensible issue to deal with teens and it need to be planned accordingly.
    http://www.strugglingteen.net/

    To view the complete article and reply, please visit:
    http://www.tutormentorconnection.org/LinksLearningNetwork/Articles/tabid/645/ctl/ArticleView/mid/1350/articleId/430/Mentoring-Troubled-Teens-in-12-Simple-Steps.aspx

    Thank you,
    Tutor/Mentor Connection

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  27. "Experience is the best teacher when dealing with Troubled Teens" - Facebook comments

    Robert Martin knowing what you know now ,by life experiences, would you go back and try to change anything? when I did right, no one remembers, but when I did wrong, no one forgets.
    January 9 at 11:08am · Therlon Harris Trying to change what happened in the past is a waste of time. Life is not "Star Trek"! You can only change today. Did you cause lots of pain? It's time for some healing. Live and let go.
    January 9 at 1:09pm · Robert Martin Ithink you misunderstood my meaning: people sometimes only remember the wrong someone has done, never anything good. Life's journey is not to repeat the same wrong again,relating to warning the next generation not to repeat our mistakes. Healing can be made through reconciling matt.5:24 'star trek' sounded sarcastic, if I offend you I apolgize, I wont make anymore comments. your friend.
    January 9 at 1:55pm · Therlon Harris I wasn't being sarcastic, nor was I offended. They may remember the wrong you did, but they'll admire you for the right you're doing now!
    January 9 at 2:41pm · Therlon Harris Do what's right and don't worry about it. People will see the change!
    January 9 at 2:56pm · Therlon Harris I'm speaking in general. The "you" is not meant to be you personally, but a manner of speech. Remember we're speaking hypothetically.

    January 9 at 3:04pm · Robert Martin right, Live today as if you would stand before GOD tomarrow.
    January 9 at 3:04pm · Gail Stenning We stand before him everyday.
    Mon at 10:49am · Robert Martin How do we stand ? For him or against him ? to do his commandments or ignore them?
    Mon at 1:54pm · Gail Stenning The greatest of all the commandments: "Love thy neighbor as thyself".
    Mon at 5:47pm · Robert Martin I agree, but this small sentence has big details, which are never taught. look at this generation, and it only gets worse. why are morals forbidden to teach?
    Mon at 6:40pm · Gail Stenning If we love we won't hate or hurt anyone, and obviously many of us are not doing it.
    Mon at 7:21pm · Robert Martin you are 100% right, it's depressing to see youth desensitize to right and wrong. I worked 36 yrs. in public school and was glad to retire.
    Mon at 7:57pm · Gail Stenning Sad, isn't it? Congratulations on your long career.
    Mon at 9:08pm · Therlon Harris Thanks for all of your comments. This proves my point that adults learn best from the sharing of experiences.

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  28. The 21st National Youth At-Risk Conference hosted by Georgia Southern Universty had an abundance of informative workshops and motivational speakers.

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  29. Welcome Comeback Diva! Thanks for joing the conversation. We look forward to your comments and ideas. I'm sure you have an abundance or more than enough of experiences that would greatly enhance this website. Thank you very much!

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  30. If I had to pick which workshop I enjoyed the most at the NYAR it would be the one by Dr. Stephen Sroka, "The Power of One". When the session ended he hugged just about everyone who attended. He even hugged me twice! "Heart to heart"! What a way to inspire!

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  32. Thank you for stopping by my presentation at the National Youth At-Risk Conference (NYAR) last week on Tuesday, March 2nd. I was thrilled by the enormous response from those who joined the conversation "What does it take to mentor troubled teens?"



    The responses support my theory that adults learn best from the sharing of common experiences with other fellow adults. Where solutions to common problems dealing with troubled youth can be mutually dealt with through the brainstorming of ideas.


    "What does it take to mentor troubled teens?"

    Time, perseverance, strength, commitment, and the ability to provide tangible help - John Parsons, Omaha, NE

    Dedication! - Adrienne Jackson, Kennesaw, GA

    It takes high expectations ~ which means continual support of mentees until change happens. - Keisha Cook, Columbus, GA

    Caring and respect! - Margaret McMillan, Nashville, GA

    A caring heart and a third ear to really hear the messages imparted by children - Dr. James McTyre, Jr., Cols, GA

    Trust, accountability and consistency - Leann Shell, Brunswick, GA

    Listen to them and provide support to them - Samantha Pope, Ocilla, GA

    Respect, support understanding - Virginia B. Lewis, Savanah, GA

    Belief and investment that a youth can fulfill their potentials - Peter Ferguson, Lincoln, NE

    Passion, understanding - Charlene B. Jenkins, Riverdale, GA

    "Heart" work! - Terry Ogborn, St. George, UT

    Patience and commitment - Marybeth Leavell, Forest Park, GA

    Everyone working together - Shaundra Stephens, Mint, AL

    Time, commitment, empathy, non-judgmental, ability to "think outside the box" - Susan Carter-Span, Conway, SC

    Time!! - Gerry Fairley, Dekalb, GA

    Experience is the best teacher!

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  35. The Urban Leadership Institute's (Baltimore, MD) co-founders David Miller and LaMarr Darnell Shields were extremely knowledgeable, enthusiastic and in harmony while presenting their workshop titled " Keeping Our Eyes On The Prize: Engaging Boys of Color". Their enthusiasm grabbed your attention immediately and kept it throughout the entirety of the presentation. They clearly succeeded in in reaching their goal of Focusing Youth Service Providers how to engaged and understand the many difficulties that Black and Latino Youth face everyday.

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  36. 21st NYARC Evaluation - Therlon Harris


    I enjoyed this Conference very much. The Speakers, the abundance of resources and being in Historic Savannah combined to make this conference a “must do”!
    Larry Bell jumped started the conference and got everyone fired up. He brought relevance, energy and urgency. I felt honored along with everyone else in the audience to having a career in this field and I am retired!
    All of the speakers were enthusiastic and excited about what they did. If I had to pick the workshop which I enjoyed the most at the NYAR it would be Dr. Stephen Sroka’s, "The Power of One" simply because when the session ended he hugged just about everyone who attended. He even hugged me twice! "Let’s do it this time heart to heart"! What a way to inspire!
    The Urban Leadership Institute's (Baltimore, MD) co-founders David Miller and LaMarr Darnell Shields were extremely knowledgeable, enthusiastic and in harmony with each other while presenting their workshop titled " Keeping Our Eyes On The Prize: Engaging Boys of Color". Their enthusiasm grabbed your attention immediately and kept it throughout the entirety of the presentation. They clearly succeeded in in reaching their goal of Focusing Youth Service Providers how to engaged and understand the many difficulties that Black and Latino Youth face everyday.
    Christian Moore took us on a “roller coaster” to get his emphasis across. A ride “through the loop” and “crashing”. What an imaginative approach to help adults learn how to help youth overcome their challenges in life through music, video, etc.
    Experience is what I gained from Ron Glodoski. Ron’s fresh new perspective to connect with unmotivated students is gained from his personal life experiences. Ron’s life exemplifies the strength of the human spirit.

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  37. Howdy. I had an unexpected back problem this weekend, so I had plenty of down time to read the eworkbook you wrote. I enjoyed your insights quite a lot. Your experiences with the young people are similar to those of a man in Omaha, so I could relate to your viewpoint. And I think it is exactly what you said it was – inspiring, helpful and thought-provoking.



    Because of the kind of person I am, or the way I read, it would have helped me to divide up the great thoughts into smaller subsets. For example, maybe one section is called “communication”, and then a number of pages or worksheets are included there. It seems like you have one such section “strategies”, but you could have more J. One final comment is that I would also ponder a ‘flow’ to your book. In my mentoring resources, I usually start with - what will the beginning of the relationship look like, and how will it develop; and then I work along a progression to what it might look like in a year, or two. My experience is that most adults never think about the process or how to get to a point or concept. You have all the “right” ideas – but I’ve found that prospective mentors need more help.



    Great stuff, which I can tell is born from long, difficult circumstances. The beauty is being able to tell others about your experiences and hopefully give them the help they need. Thanks for allowing me “in” the conversation. Blessings,



    John Parsons
    Omaha, NE

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  38. Hi Therlon Harris,

    Yes! I DO remember you!.......And I am certain you are an angel...both YOU and your wife. Thank you for coming to the NYARC and for sharing your materials and programs with us. I DO have your things right here in my office, but unfortunately, I have not had a moment to review them. I WILL though...soon. I DID give one of your mentoring spiral bound booklets to a Middle School Teacher (whom I gave a "scholarship" to the conference). I am sure he is benefitting greatly from your materials. He wants to learn how to reach his students who live in poverty, are unmotivated, yet very precious to him.

    I have just returned home from a conference on the United Nations held in Atlanta at Emory University...Candler School of Theology. (I have presented at UN conferences and love the work for peace that goes on there.)

    I will be unpacking things from the NYARC right away...Stay tuned.

    Best,
    Rosemarie

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  39. ----- Original Message -----
    From: John Parsons
    To: 'Therlon Harris'
    Sent: Tuesday, March 23, 2010 3:31 PM
    Subject: RE: Hello!


    I haven’t ebooked before, so it’s good to know your limits. I sure didn’t want to sound critical.

    More resources need to get into the “right” people’s hands. Thanks for your work – and let’s keep it up J!

    John

    Hey John,

    Your critque was right on. You exposed an area which I hadn't thought about. After reviewing and digesting what you had to say about "what to expect in the relationship?". I realized that this concept should be addressed on page 9 after the"Do you measure up?" This is the perfect place. Do you agree? Or do you understand my point.

    Thank you very much!

    Therlon

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    Happy Easter! Everyone!

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  41. Follow this link to Current News and Information http://leadgusher.com/r/Therlong.html

    No joke!

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  42. Dream, Plan, Do!
    Factors for teaching at-risk youth living by choice not by chance.

    By Therlon Harris

    When dealing with at-risk youth it is imperative to develop balance and harmony between choosing activities which are liked and why they are liked. Understanding why a particular activity is liked should be pursued and connected to what you do and why you do it. Living by choice then is the knowledge of ones needs and desires; being able to take responsibility for ones actions; and through future visioning create an action plan for achieving the goals of choice.

    Troubled teens generally do not set realistic goals or have dreams for a planned future. Quite often dreams are snuffed out by negative conditioning or what’s being repeated in their lives through peer pressure or negative family situations. Dreams end up being living by chance. How often do you hear a teen saying “I’ll take care of that when it happens”? When it happens is too late! Youth should be taught living today for the rewards of tomorrow and the decisions that are made today can determine what the future holds for tomorrow.

    From my experience I hear troubled teens all the time saying that they will become “rappers, football or basketball players and make more money in a day then what I make in a year”. “My response to them is that this might be true, but the competition for these positions is great and it’s limited. There’s only room for so many rappers, football or basketball players. What are you doing now to stand out and make this a reality?” If living by chance, reality will always fall far short of the dream.

    DREAM your dreams. PLAN your future. DO it now!

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  43. By johnstfus @ Monday, May 03, 2010 7:47 AM
    As dealing with today's troubled teenagers is not an easiest tasks for parents, counselors, and teachers it is definitely helpful to take an experienced person advices or treatment to come out of various teenage problems. Here comes the experience of a parent, counselor or teacher who have lots of experience in dealing with troubled teenagers. The suggested advices, tips are really going to help parents and teenagers to come out of the problems in a healthy way.

    http://www.troubledteensguide.com/

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  44. http://www.teenhealthline.com/troubled-teen-how-to-help-troubled-teens/

    Troubled teens are young boys and girls who think negatively and who tend to harm themselves. Adolescent stage in a teenager’s life is when hormonal changes take place in their bodies. It becomes very difficult for teens to adjust to the demands of their adulthood, leaving them troubled.

    Uncontrollable and rebellious youth are considered as the troubled teens. Teens who are troubled do not show any progress in their academics and do not attend the school regularly. They even tend to abuse alcohol, drugs and tobacco.

    Some teens get caught in small crimes, and are always psychologically troubled, depressed. They suffer from anxiety and mood swings. They find it very difficult to interact with their family, friends and the society. They get obsessed with their bodies, and develop very bad eating disorders.

    How to Identify a Troubled Teen:

    It is very easy to know if the teen is troubled. Parents should have a check over their teens from time to time to know the factors that trouble them.
    Teens who are troubled always stay away from a company and will have no friends. They withdraw themselves from the company of their families.
    The behavior of the teens changes towards their parents, making them more argumentative and defiant. They always feel that their parents have become more strict and are always dictating something or the other to them.
    They do not communicate with their parents properly and always tend to hide things from their parents.
    Some teens even show suicidal tendencies and parents should seek the help of a professional help.
    How to Help Teens:

    Finding a help for the troubled teens is a very easy and fast process.
    The hormonal imbalances can be treated by simple diagnosis.
    Psychological problems can be treated with the help of trained therapists.
    Proper attention should be given to the teenagers and parents should spend time with their teens.
    Parents should try and change their attitude and rules towards their teens.
    Teenagers will not tolerate if they are treated as children.
    Parents should help them develop positive skills, self esteem and a healthy interaction with others

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